Add Your SQAs
I had to help Ananya tease out the four SQAs, ‘brave, determined, hard-working and reliable’. It’s common for people with a Low IDQ not to see their qualities. So these were a good start and got her into the idea.
After a few weeks, she built up a routine and momentum. After four weeks, she developed a solid list of 10 – 12 SQAs. She believed in them because they had cropped up repeatedly as she Reviewed different issues. So now she was ready to nurture her Identity.
Nurture Your Identity
Ananya’s thoughts on her Identity evolved with the Reviews of various challenges over time. You can almost follow her High IDQ Journey as you look over how she described herself along the way. About four months in, we’d got to the 9th version, and she was happy that this Identity defined who she truly is.
- I have the courage to face my fears.
- I’m brave, hard-working and reliable.
- I am a woman who tries to do the right thing.
- I am a trier who gets the job done.
- I am skilled in my work.
- I am a successful woman.
- I’m a strong, capable woman.
- I am a strong, capable and successful woman.
At no.5, Ananya reached a tipping point. This was when she moved to the left-hand side of the Identity Model and shifted from a Low IDQ towards the High IDQ scores.
At the 9th time around, Ananya felt she had found her true Identity. She thought it summed up her SQAs. It was enough for her to deploy this for herself in a challenging moment.
Deploy Your Identity
Ananya’s boss wasn’t good for her state of mind. He was pretty chaotic and would ask for a presentation on a whim if he saw her around the office. So she put in a lot of effort trying to avoid him.
He would often forget what he’d asked her to do, so when he collared her with an off-the-cuff request, she would hope and pray nothing would come of it.
But as she progressed with R&P, she started to accept whatever came her way. She found the ad hoc requests got easier as she worked with CLARITY Part 2
Ananya got used to noticing her immediate response after being instructed to present some data, interrupting the symptoms with 7-11 Breathing while repeating her Identity statement to herself.
This didn’t magically make her nerves go away right away, but she noticed that something had changed when she was presenting. It “looked and felt different” to her. She saw more support from the people watching and heard more positive comments.
This meant that her work with Review had subtly changed how she saw things – her Edited Reality. Even though she felt nervous, people noticed her presentation style had improved.
This was a fantastic foundation to build on. Ananya’s confidence snowballed as she added Preview to her routine.